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FirstMaggie,then20,askedStepmomandDadifshecouldstoreafewboxeswiththeminWashingtonwhileshelookedforanotherplacetolive.ThenMaggiesaidshewouldliketomoveintobewithherboxesuntilherboyfriendJoeboughtacondominium.NextMaggieaskedwhetherJoecouldmovein"temporarily"untilthecondodealwasclosed.WhenLucyandPabloSanchezreturnedhomefromvacationlastChristmas,theyfoundtheirsmalllivingroomcrammedwithhisboxesandasecondwelcomematnexttotheirownonthefrontporch.LucySanchezimmediatelydidwhatanylovingbutput-uponparentwoulddo:"Ihadamigraine,"shesays.
SuchtalesarebecomingabundantlyfamiliarasAmericanparentsareforcedtomakeroomfortheiradultchildren."Thereisanaivenotionthatchildrengrowupandleavehomewhenthey're18,andthetruthisfarfromthat,"saysSociologistLarryBumpassoftheUniversityofWisconsininMadison.Today,accordingtotheU.S.CensusBureau,59%ofmenand47%ofwomenbetween18and24dependontheirparentsforhousing,somelivingincollegedormsbutmostathome.In1970thefigureswere54%and41%.Also,14%ofmenand8%ofwomenages25to34aredependentontheirparentsforhousing,comparedwith9.5%and6.6%in1970."Thisispartofamajorshiftinthemiddleclass,"&declaresSociologistAllanSchnaibergofNorthwesternUniversity.Heshouldknow:Schnaiberg'sstepson,19,movedbackinafteranabsenceofeightmonths.
Analystsciteavarietyofreasonsforthisreturntothenest.Themarriageageisrising,aconditionthatmakeshomeanditsamenitiesparticularlyattractivetoyoungpeople,sayexperts.Ahighdivorcerateandadecliningremarriageratearesendingeconomicallypressedandemotionallybatteredsurvivorsbacktoparentalshelters.Forsome,theexpenseofanaway-from-homecollegeeducationhasbecomesoexorbitantthatmanystudentsnowattendlocalschools.Evenaftergraduation,youngpeoplefindtheirwingsclippedbyskyrocketinghousingcosts.NotesSociologistCarlfredBroderickoftheUniversityofSouthernCaliforniainLosAngeles,whohasason,31,andadaughter,27,inresidence:"Theyarefindingthatthegoodlifeisnotspontaneouslygeneratedoutthere."
SallieKnighton,26,movedbacktoherparents'suburbanAtlantahometosaveenoughmoneytobuyacar.Herjobasateacherprovidedonlyenoughmoneytocovercarpaymentsandanadditionalloanshehadtakenout.Oncetheloanwaspaidoff,shedecidedtotakeacrackatamodelingcareer.Livingathome,saysKnighton,continuestogivehersecurityandmoralsupport."IfIhadlivedaway,"shesays,"Iwouldbemiserablestillteaching."Hermotherconcurs,"It'sridiculousforthekidstopayallthatmoneyforrent.Itmakessenseforkidstostayathome."BradleyKulat,25,makesabout$20,000ayearasanequipmenttechnicianinahospital.Thatisenoughtosupportamodesthousehold,buthechoosestoliveathisparents'split-levelranchhouseoutsideChicago,asdoeshissisterPamela,20,whocommutestoanearbycollege.Headmitstoexpensivetastes.Herecentlyboughtan$8,000carandalsoownsan$800stereosystem,a$300ten-speedbikeandanelegantwardrobe.SayshismotherEvelyn:"Itkeepsyouthinkingyounger,tryingtokeepupwiththem."
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Sharingthefamilyhomerequiresadjustmentsforall.Therearethehasslesoverbathrooms,telephonesandprivacy.Somefamilies,however,managethedelicatebalancingact.At34,EstherRodriguezdreadedreturningtoherparents'Denverhomeafterthreeyearsoflawschoolforcedher$20,000intodebt."Ithoughtitwasgoingtobearestrictiononmyindependence,"sherecalls.Instead,shewastouchedwhenherfatherinstalledadeskandphoneinthebasementsoshewouldhaveaprivatestudy.TheSanchezfamilytoohasmadeasuccessofthearrangement.SaysLucySanchez:"Familyisfamily,andwebelieveandactonthat."Butforothers,thesetupprovestoodifficult.MichelleDelTurco,24,ofEnglewood,Colo.,aDenversuburb,hasbeen